Namaskara, thank you for such enlightening sessions
My doubt is
I should not have any attachments ( Raga)
I merely performing a role
Could you please explain
How can I perform a role without attachment. Can I be a father without feeling of attachment to my child. I can do best to my child when I feel he is mine.
Beautiful question! This had haunted me too. Couple of my thoughts with my limited knowledge.
> Most of us misunderstand love to be all about really holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible.
> Detachment is needed to understand that love is about acceptance and not about control.
> True detachment allows for deep involvement— because of the lack of attachment to outcome. The trick is behaving like an Oscar award-winning actor playing a role: become fully emotionally immersed and recognize that you can step outside of the character and be objective. The emotions in that moment are just as real as your dreams, goals, and plans. But you can step outside of them if you need to. This ability to recognize that you can step outside and reflect— to detach who you are from your role (in this case, role of a parent) — is what true detachment is.
In all relationships, there is a need to practice a certain amount of detachment.
We might wonder why?
The answers are many!
DHARAM PAL MADAN:...Attachment, in my view could be considered as " Detached Attachment". This would mean " have Attachment but not intrinsically. Or in other words attachment should be for carrying out duties as a father keeping the emotions aside.
Above is only an effort to clarify with my limited knowledge. The faculty would be the to answer.
We need to understand the basic tenets of Karma Yoga to play our role in the materialistic world full of relationships.
Swami Paramarthananda gives an analogy which helps us practically-
Suppose there is a five-test series of cricket. Your team has won the first three matches. Practically, you have won the series because already the score is 3-0. Now imagine, how will be your play in the fourth and fifth matches? Your team will sincerely play them, with an intention to win them too. But at the same time, you will have equanimity regarding the result. Whether you win or lose, despite sincere efforts, is not going to make any difference to the overall outcome. The only result that eventually matters is winning the test series.
Our efforts while playing the worldly roles should be with the same equanimity. Your sincere efforts matter. Ishvara arpana buddhi.
Whatever the result, embrace it gratefully. Results does not matter anyway in the ultimate scheme of things. Ishvara prasada buddhi.
Swami Anubhavananda says, ‘there is nothing to do, nowhere to go’. So, stay in Kar-natak!
Not easy, though!
Cricket match... 5 Test series! What a beautiful example.🏏
Another example we can think of: if we like chocolate then when it is available we can eat it and enjoy it. However, if chocolate is not available then it will not affect us/spoil our day/causes bad mood. This is detachment.
“Kar-natak!” Yes..as you said rightly, it’s not easy. Because we are lost in doing “Kar-nakhra” a lot
It is about Dharma, which was interlinked with Varna and Ahsrama. Krishna showed Arjuna that he must go to war because it was his Swadharma as a Kshatriya. The world is a very different place now. Many traditional occupations have been replaced by new occupations that have opened up, often as a result of technology. Varna no longer dictates what you choose to do with your life. The lines between Ashramas have gotten completely blurred. My life is a perfect example of a complete khitchri. My father in law was a Brahmin, but was in the Army and fought in World War II. I am a Kshatriya married to a Brahmin.. I am 68 but in full blown grihasta. My husband and I went to study after we were married. I am sure you have seen many, many instances of blurring! My question then is not specific to my situation, but relevant to the extreme changes in society, relative the time of the Mahabharata. What is the relevance of Dharma given today's socioeconomic climate. More importantly, how do I identify my Swadharma?
Pujya Swami Dayananda Saraswati says that swadharma= ‘what is to be done by one’, that is, one’s duty.
He explains that at a given time, place, and situation, what is to be done becomes evident.
Then, doing that is swadharma.
If it is not evident, then one can talk to learned people in society who can think and analyse the situation and understand what the proper action is.
He quotes from Taittiriya Upanishad, Shikshavalli, Anuvaka 11, which gives this solution, when in doubt about the right course of action.
Dear Dr. Prasad, Thank you for your response!